Thursday, February 17, 2011

Judge me. Criticize me. Hate me. Like me. Love me. Want me.

So I figured what the fuck - I can't sit here and judge these idiot men on their inability to take a decent girl or hell just any girl on a date or grow a pair of balls and contact me because my profile is "intimidating".  And someone said it earlier, that the people responding to my request to why people don't contact me are not the people I want to hear from.... I figured who better than my friends and followers to judge the shit out of me.  Do it - Even it is not something on my profile and you know me personally and think I am an idiot, stupid or ugly - work too much or wear too much make up - tell me how you really feel... Tell me why I don't get good dates.  Do it. You won't.

For every 3 Comments made about me and pertaining to why I am single, I will answer a personal question from anyone - honestly.


My self-summary
My biggest goal right now is to learn why guys who look at my profile do not contact me - I am just intrigued by the male mind, I'd like to know what type of man I am distracting to or what it is about my profile that might turn someone away :)

I admire the drive to always be better than what you are, and traveling is my favorite I am always fun :)
What I’m doing with my life
I am a Event Director, long story short - dream job.
I’m really good at
Winning :) I am a highly competitive person but knows how to have fun with it
The first things people usually notice about me
How I don't stop moving or talking - or my many leather bound books
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Da Vinci Code, Clockwork Orange, Dark Knight, Devil Wears
Prada, Mrs. Doubtfire,
The six things I could never do without
Fluffy Puppies
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Right now it is work - because that is what I spend most of my day doing, since I just moved here. I am a planner by nature and by profession, so I am always thinking 'what's next?"
On a typical Friday night I am
Depends what my friends are doing - friends and getting out are very important to me - I am extremely social, but I would be just as happy going to the ballet or sitting home cooking dinner together as I would a country bar or Sporting event.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Well, the fact I am even filling this thing out is pretty high up there.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 24-38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
You think I am cute, and you are not just doing it because you are a horny bored man, but really looking for someone to spend a fun day with and learn with - too much? probably why I am single :)

Judge me. You won't.


The Girl who apparently just grew a pair of balls.


Anonymous said...

Long time to see/talk friend!! It looks like everything is going swimmingly for you and let me just say that I love reading your blog!!! I get so excited when I see that you have posted something new. As someone who had the pleasure to spend sometime with you in college I wanted to comment on your recent post. I read through your profile and the only thing that comes to my mind is that it doesn't embrace your personality. You are a fun, energetic, spontaneous, wild woman and your profile reads like a resume. I believe that you attract what you put out there so maybe if somehow you showed the internet world a little bit more of your quirky side you would attract some fun dudes. I know that it is hard to portray yourself accurately using only words but with your spunk and creativity I'm sure you will figure it out. Trust me guys....this one is a keeper!!

Anonymous said...

I've recently started to read your blog, this is my first time commenting. I am also an online dater (on the same site as you apparently). I'm also a female so you'll be getting a fellow female dater's perspective.

First off I'm assuming you haven't changed your profile back from the experiment of finding a guy's opinion on why no one is contacting you. Well I'd lose that as soon as possible because it sounds like you're desperate for any attention and can also give off an air of being a bit egotistical as well and that you're fishing for compliments.

Otherwise your profile as a whole really doesn't tell much about you and what makes you different, unique, etc. Your profile makes you seem like a workaholic, party girl. Obviously not that you shouldn't be proud of your accomplishments in your career, you should! But when you don't balance it out with some other facts about you it just takes over the profile.

You mention you are very social and that you're "always fun" but you don't mention what exactly you do for fun. Is fun going out to a club or bar? Or is fun for you going hiking or a bike ride? Or going to the zoo or a museum after discussing film over coffee? It's very vague and by describing more interests and what you think of as fun you'll narrow down your list of potential matches, however they'll be able to identify something in common.

You barely answered the questions about music, food, movies, etc. These are big things people bond with and while you don't want to reveal everything on your profile (I've run into this trap myself, then there wasn't much to talk about) you do want to have a few key points so someone can use it as a jumping off point for conversation. You say you like culture and cooking, so does that equate to going to ethnic restaurants and daringness to try new things in the kitchen? I don't know but someone might see that as fun and as a way to connect with you.

Your reason to contact you is also a put off. While I'm sure you're being funny, it comes off negatively. You say to contact you if they think you're cute, but then berate someone for being attractive to you in the same sentence. Now I know we all don't want to be contacted by undesirable guys, but it puts off guys who might be very physically attracted to you and want to know more about you but think that you wouldn't answer them if they say "you're gorgeous" or "you're hot" in an opening message. And because your profile doesn't provide much about you, they have no other spring board to start conversation on and most guys on dating sites know a simple hello doesn't cut it.

So yeah that was blunt but you wanted an honest answer based simply on your profile.

A Girl's Gotta Eat said...

All the anonymous....I love it! I appreciate people who can tell it like it is...:)

Libbie said...

You're single because you just haven't found the right guy. That's all there is to it :)

A Girl's Gotta Eat said...

I love you Libbie.

Stacy Claire said...

The more willing you are to be open with yourself truly, the more likely someone great will find their way in. You're an intelligent and kind person who is very capable of letting in good people. You're scared of getting hurt again and you let that fear dictate some of your best interactions. Just relax more and admit your fears (even if only to yourself). I think you need to find a way to draw attention to the positive things too about people and about what you want with someone, not just want you want to do or go or see. Many things can be black and white, but not everything is like that - you're an artist, color gives emotion, depth, meaning and purpose. Give yourself a chance first. I guarantee you'll find "Mr. So Right For You" second. Oh, and remember what Patti says about being the 'girl' - guys want someone they can care for and take care of too! Love you!